Where do I begin…
Three years ago my husband was medboarded. In the navy this means he could have been medically discharged from his job and our family would have no retirement, no income, and no prospects for civilian life.
This set us on an interesting journey; we sold the only home my children had ever known, we sold the majority of our possessions to become more mobile in case we moved out of state, and we moved 3 times in 7 months.
I was emotional. I wasn’t happy. I ate horribly, I drank a lot. I still worked out but not with an attitude of becoming better it was more to maintain some semblance of sanity.
I gained weight.
A lot of weight.
We found out he was fit for duty and he got to keep his job and finish his career which was wonderful, but my habits had become set and this news didn’t magically change how unhappy I had become.
The House and Jobs
A year and a half ago we convinced my parents to buy property and build a forever home with us. A dream come true for my family considering we had always wanted to do this.
We found our little piece of heaven and started the process of building. If you’ve never built a house you’ll hear many trains of thought on the subject.
Some people have great experiences! Smooth sailing throughout and hardly any problems. Great general contractors, project managers, workers…this was not our experience.
I won’t name our builder, but if you ask me in person I’ll tell you never work with them. I started working to earn more money so we weren’t house poor when the project was over.
I nannied, I worked for a local food truck, I worked with a food prep company, and I started coaching kids at the gym.
To say that last job changed my life is an understatement. Coaching is a gift. Coaching shouldn’t be taken lightly. I started working with a nutrition coach to learn and start getting the weight off.
I wasn’t committed. I wasn’t ready. I didn’t admit that to myself or my coach. I would track my food then I’d stop. I’d measure my food, then eyeball things and call it good.
I hadn’t really understood the significance of really setting a goal and sticking to it. How could I coach these kids and not be an example? I became unhappy with myself.
I wanted to crawl into a hole. Is this my nutrition coach’s fault? No. We can create all sorts of excuses for why we don’t do the things we know are good for us.
I had so many to choose from; I worked 3 jobs, I was tired, I was building a house, I was still homeschool my kids, I’ll start on Monday, I’ll start tracking again tomorrow, Oh, I ate that cookie with my coffee might as well call it a day and eat whatever I want….the list goes on.
“The only thing standing between you and your goals, is the BS story you keep telling yourself why you can’t achieve it.”
I don’t know where I read that quote, but it stood out. Every reason I kept telling myself was just a BS story. I could create the time if I wanted to. I could measure and track my food if I wanted to.
I just needed to commit to it. When someone asks me if I can do something for them and I say yes, my yes is my yes. I don’t like to commit to things if I don’t intend on following through.
So here I was wanting to commit to losing weight and setting an example, but I hadn’t given myself permission to make ME a priority. And so I did.
The turning point
So I reached out to a coach and committed. Not only to a new nutrition approach, but to myself. If I say yes to other people and keep my promise, what’s stopping me from keeping a promise to myself? Nothing.
5 months ago I said yes. Boom. I measure my food. Boom. I track my food in my fitness pal. Boom. I check in with my coach weekly.
Almost as if by magic the weight started to drop off. “Science“. If you eat food you’ll ramp up your metabolism and it’ll actually start burning the fat it’s storing. Go figure.
Good food; protein, fats, carbs. My coach answers my questions, holds me accountable, tells me I’m doing a good job, and keeps me motivated. For me, the key was saying yes to myself.
Yes, to taking care of me and the rest will fall into place. Did I have a lot of stress going into this journey? Yes.
Could I have used it all as an excuse why I need to start AFTER the build, AFTER I’m not working 3 jobs, AFTER my kids aren’t homeschooled? Absolutely, if I wanted to tell myself a BS story.
My point is, if I can do it anyone can.
Find a coach, someone who knows what they’re doing and can guide you safely through the process of weight loss. Trust that they have your best interest in mind. Say Yes to yourself and not to the BS story.
“You can dance in the storm. Don’t wait for the rain to be over before because it might take too long. You can can do it now. Wherever you are, right now, you can start, right now; this very moment.”
― Israelmore Ayivor
Written by: Coach Tanya Werner